Authentic Fridays Guest Blogger: Trenace Carter " Everyone that is with you isn't FOR you!"

 Melancholy, Despair, Funk, Sadness Misery,Unhappy Heavyheartedness,Gloominess, Hopelessness,Blah, Poignancy, Bummer, Cheerlessness, Dismal, Distress, Heartbroken,Depression

 

Misery loves company....

I have heard that so many times and for so many years. Has anyone actually thought about what that really means? I will wait........
People that are miserable like to have others around them that are miserable. This person may or may not realize this is who they are. This person may be upset and will interact with people to make them unhappy or upset as well. They make excuses for their bad attitudes.They constantly complain. You may even find that these people often say that they have HATERS but they are often spending time hating on their "haters". Now, that makes a lot of sense.
She is your friend to your face but behind your back she just can't help but talk bad about your or even tell something personal/private about you. Some of the things that she says to you are in order to make herself *SHINE* in someone else's eyes.
What is even more interesting is that we interact with these type of people, women, on a regular basis. You ignore how she behaves because you have become accustomed to her behavior, her rants, her raves, her meanness. Yes she is many times mean!! Very mean.
I used to have a friend. Nice lady, helpful, fun to be around...until she saw that I was happy or I wasn't doing what SHE wanted me to do. If she couldn't get her way she would be mean, nasty, disrespectful and argumentative. She was mad one day for no apparent reason, she called her daughter's dad made him mad. When she ended the call she was smiling, just as happy. She often blamed her bad behavior on her cycle.
Soooo, what do you do. If you value this friendship. You speak with her honestly. Tell her how she behaves and tell her how it makes you feel. If the behavior doesn't begin to end you could have to change your relationship or even end it. I changed our relationship but she ended it because I changed it. Value who you are. Value your happiness. Value your space. Value your peace.
Now, if you can't think of a person that behaves in these negative ways....it is probably you. Don't be afraid to look in the mirror. Don't be afraid to journal it out. Don't be afraid to get some help. It could be depression. Depression can be fixed with help.
Then again it may not be depression. It could be jealously, envy or even hate. Everyone that is with you is not always for you. Friend may be a foe. People that have been in your circle for years, may have to be left behind for you to shine. Sometimes the ones that are closest to you could be your worst enemy. Step away with the realization that you have to surround yourself with people of like mind. A mindset of success!

To read more blog post by Trenace Carter please go to http://creativeinkflow.blogspot.com/



 

Authentic Fridays Guest Blogger: Trenace Carter " Everyone that is with you isn't FOR you!"

 Melancholy, Despair, Funk, Sadness Misery,Unhappy Heavyheartedness,Gloominess, Hopelessness,Blah, Poignancy, Bummer, Cheerlessness, Dismal, Distress, Heartbroken,Depression

 

Misery loves company....

I have heard that so many times and for so many years. Has anyone actually thought about what that really means? I will wait........
People that are miserable like to have others around them that are miserable. This person may or may not realize this is who they are. This person may be upset and will interact with people to make them unhappy or upset as well. They make excuses for their bad attitudes.They constantly complain. You may even find that these people often say that they have HATERS but they are often spending time hating on their "haters". Now, that makes a lot of sense.
She is your friend to your face but behind your back she just can't help but talk bad about your or even tell something personal/private about you. Some of the things that she says to you are in order to make herself *SHINE* in someone else's eyes.
What is even more interesting is that we interact with these type of people, women, on a regular basis. You ignore how she behaves because you have become accustomed to her behavior, her rants, her raves, her meanness. Yes she is many times mean!! Very mean.
I used to have a friend. Nice lady, helpful, fun to be around...until she saw that I was happy or I wasn't doing what SHE wanted me to do. If she couldn't get her way she would be mean, nasty, disrespectful and argumentative. She was mad one day for no apparent reason, she called her daughter's dad made him mad. When she ended the call she was smiling, just as happy. She often blamed her bad behavior on her cycle.
Soooo, what do you do. If you value this friendship. You speak with her honestly. Tell her how she behaves and tell her how it makes you feel. If the behavior doesn't begin to end you could have to change your relationship or even end it. I changed our relationship but she ended it because I changed it. Value who you are. Value your happiness. Value your space. Value your peace.
Now, if you can't think of a person that behaves in these negative ways....it is probably you. Don't be afraid to look in the mirror. Don't be afraid to journal it out. Don't be afraid to get some help. It could be depression. Depression can be fixed with help.
Then again it may not be depression. It could be jealously, envy or even hate. Everyone that is with you is not always for you. Friend may be a foe. People that have been in your circle for years, may have to be left behind for you to shine. Sometimes the ones that are closest to you could be your worst enemy. Step away with the realization that you have to surround yourself with people of like mind. A mindset of success!

To read more blog post by Trenace Carter please go to http://creativeinkflow.blogspot.com/



 

Rewrite The Script To Your Life.....

In life we are the directors and producers of what we want our life to be so we might as well write a script of what we dream our life to be. ~Stylicia~

 

 

Recently I watched a 7 day webinar on Ustream entitled " 7 Secrets of A Dreamer". The host of the webinar, Shanel Cooper Sykes did a fabulous job in tapping into the things that hold us back from allowing our dreams to manifest. I realized alot of the points she made throughout the 7 days made sense to the journey I was on in the past. I wanted to live my dream so bad but my actions, words and everything else was not lining up. I felt I had to get approval or validation from others to live my dream. After taking a two year hiatus to step back and reevaluate myself I realize I was not being true to myself and needed to live in my authenticity. Now I realize my words, actions and thoughts about living my dream have to be in sync with each other. Ms. Cooper discussed the language of a dreamer on Day 4, learning to be aware of what you speak and your thoughts concerning your life. She stated "Your words, your thoughts are shaping your life", which is true & powerful. The assignment Ms. Cooper assigned to us was to be bold and rewrite a different script to our lives. So, I decided to take a leap of boldness and put it on my blog. I am a dreamer, I believe in my dreams and I know they will come true by me putting forth action in making them reality. Here is the rewritten story of my life, just watch the manifestation...Soon To Come:

 

As I sit looking out my hotel window I see the beautiful breathtaking view of the Eiffel Tower. I am quietly writing away another script of my life, another New York Best Time Seller is coming forth out of my womb. I am in awe of how God has allowed me to travel profusely across the international border to speak on authenticity, business and do book signings. I have even been able to expose my life to my daughter who loves to travel with me while I am working. It is a precious gift to work for myself and own my own company. When I am not traveling I am busy lecturing at colleges as a college professor on subjects pertaining to marketing, branding and business. I realize how blessed I am and I thank God for all he is has done. It was such an honor to speak poetically at Black Girl's Rock and NAACP Awards. Sometimes I reflect on how far I have come in my life from Detroit to the military to living in SC and now a business owner. It is my desire to leave behind a legacy to encourage, uplift and inspire women to be authentic without social validation. I cannot wait to go to London to work on my fashion clothes line entitled The Authentic Woman. Fashion has been a passion since I was young and never knew it would grow into something as major as my own clothes line. I have many more speeches, lectures and books to write but right now I am basking in the glow of the moment. I have dreamed of Paris for so long but to sit here and write here is unbelievable. It started with a seed of faith, faith with works and belief in myself and who God created me to be. If you dare to dream, dream big and dream with your eyes open, you need to see your dream come to fruition. My dream has come true and everyday I have to make it a reality!

 

I rewrote my script and now watch it come to manifestation, it's time for you to be bold and rewrite the script or story of your life!