Rescue You

A month in a half has passed and I have not written on my blog...I like to be inspired that is why I named it "The Inspirational Corner". There is inspirational behind my pen when I write because I have a habit to write from my soul! ~Stylicia

I am a movie lover and some movies leave a print on my mind and heart. I just finished watching "My Week With Marilyn" based on a true story by Colin Clark describing his magical week with Marilyn Monroe. It left a provoking thought in my head, fame can sometimes kill the most beautiful women. Marilyn Monroe had a persona that she developed in the public eye and she had to live up to her brand she created. However, people had no idea of the real person she was beyond the sex symbol image. I believe many women create a persona in the public eye but that is not who they really are on the inside.Whitney Houston was another iconic woman who people saw as a musical princess but they did not know who Whitney was behind her brand image. Whitney Houston and Marilyn Monroe both had a tragic end to their life. However, these two beautiful women were constantly everything to everyone else but no one was there to save them from their demise. As women we are built to wear many hats but sometimes we forget the woman on the inside need personal care. If we do not get that personal care then we start to develop an unhealthy relationship with our self. Marilyn and Whitney both needed to be rescued from their demanding life, feeling unpretty,incompetent, insecure and feeling like their talent was not enough. These beautiful women were icons who made a great impression on women in their lifespan. It is sad to have all the money in the world but not feel love from within. It is important as a woman we find time to retreat away from the pressures of life when we feel like we are losing who we are on the inside. Some of us are dying on the inside but smiling on the outside because we just want to be rescued. I still ponder what would of happen if Whitney Houston, Marilyn Monroe and Amy Winehouse would have been rescued from their misery. Ladies, misery loves company but it is your duty to connect back with the light.There comes a time where you have to find time to separate your roles from being a mother, wife, friend, mentor, nurturer and career woman to connect with who you are,  connecting with your God given persona. I have many names but sometimes I just have a desire just to be Stylicia, the fun, crazy, edgy, goofy and unadulterated person I was created to be. However, the biggest lesson I have learned from Marilyn Monroe and Whitney Houston is no matter how many demands, titles and roles I have to play in life the most important role is being good to myself. I have to learn to be my own best friend!

Ladies take to time to retreat away, to regroup and be you, be true to the woman that needs nurturing on the inside!

Rescue You

A month in a half has passed and I have not written on my blog...I like to be inspired that is why I named it "The Inspirational Corner". There is inspirational behind my pen when I write because I have a habit to write from my soul! ~Stylicia

I am a movie lover and some movies leave a print on my mind and heart. I just finished watching "My Week With Marilyn" based on a true story by Colin Clark describing his magical week with Marilyn Monroe. It left a provoking thought in my head, fame can sometimes kill the most beautiful women. Marilyn Monroe had a persona that she developed in the public eye and she had to live up to her brand she created. However, people had no idea of the real person she was beyond the sex symbol image. I believe many women create a persona in the public eye but that is not who they really are on the inside.Whitney Houston was another iconic woman who people saw as a musical princess but they did not know who Whitney was behind her brand image. Whitney Houston and Marilyn Monroe both had a tragic end to their life. However, these two beautiful women were constantly everything to everyone else but no one was there to save them from their demise. As women we are built to wear many hats but sometimes we forget the woman on the inside need personal care. If we do not get that personal care then we start to develop an unhealthy relationship with our self. Marilyn and Whitney both needed to be rescued from their demanding life, feeling unpretty,incompetent, insecure and feeling like their talent was not enough. These beautiful women were icons who made a great impression on women in their lifespan. It is sad to have all the money in the world but not feel love from within. It is important as a woman we find time to retreat away from the pressures of life when we feel like we are losing who we are on the inside. Some of us are dying on the inside but smiling on the outside because we just want to be rescued. I still ponder what would of happen if Whitney Houston, Marilyn Monroe and Amy Winehouse would have been rescued from their misery. Ladies, misery loves company but it is your duty to connect back with the light.There comes a time where you have to find time to separate your roles from being a mother, wife, friend, mentor, nurturer and career woman to connect with who you are,  connecting with your God given persona. I have many names but sometimes I just have a desire just to be Stylicia, the fun, crazy, edgy, goofy and unadulterated person I was created to be. However, the biggest lesson I have learned from Marilyn Monroe and Whitney Houston is no matter how many demands, titles and roles I have to play in life the most important role is being good to myself. I have to learn to be my own best friend!

Ladies take to time to retreat away, to regroup and be you, be true to the woman that needs nurturing on the inside!

The Perfect Imperfection

When I use to look in the mirror I would see this woman who did not love herself and wanted to be the perfect everything to everyone. She would often act as a superhero saving all those who screamed for a prayer or advice while she enabled them to solely depend on her. She was ignorant to the fact she was trying to be someones savior and her own god but had the inability to save herself. She believed if she pretended to act inhuman she would be invincible to the pangs of heartache so she took on a robotic exterior . Dominating her way to the top only to find herself alone and wondering why every guy wanted to hit but not commit and lead her astray just to say they were not interested in what she had to offer. She was puzzled not having a clue why this pattern followed her like a shadow. This woman had no idea that she was "the perfect imperfection" waiting to be accepted for the authentic her. She modified herself for her friends approval, for a man's approval and for the world's acceptance. It was not meant for her to conform but it was meant for her to break the mold and defy the odds by being true to herself.  In essence this woman is me and I never was happy until I started to live life on my own terms by being who I was "the imperfect" me. I begin to work on the authentic me. The biggest injustice I did to myself was allowing others to tell me what I should be and giving them control to control me. I would often let my friends tell me what was best for me when they had no clue what was really best for me. I was passive letting people boss me around without speaking up for myself. However, in 2011 a revolution began when I got out of my last relationship and realized how I changed myself for a man who never really wanted me. It hurt me to know my pattern with men had not changed. I needed a wake up call and so in April 2011 I began to go on a soul searching journey. In my year of soul searching I realized the issues I had and the baggage that I was carrying needed to be handled.  The one thing I realized is I was acting perfect for people who never really cared about me. I came to understand the perfect person I was trying to be was nonexistent. I had myself on a high pedestal thinking I had to do everything perfect so I would not fail. When friendships failed, relationships failed and everything else failed I would blame myself harshly. But now I realize I am perfect, I am the perfect imperfection. My flaws is what make me human, beautiful and realistic. I can be myself without restraints and if people judge me it doesn't matter because opinions are not perfect but someones shallow idea of what they believe is the truth about me. I am no longer suffering for the acceptance of others. I have allowed myself to make room for failure. If things fail in my life I understand I have another chance to get it right. I do not have to live up to others expectations of me because I am going to be the woman God created me to be. I do not have to hide who I am just to be accepted. I am learning to understand rejection is not a bad thing it is actually a character building tool to help you understand that person or thing was not meant to be there...their season ended. I am learning to be happy with the perfect imperfect me. Whoever cannot accept me for who I am then I realized it is not up to me to convince them. I am okay with who "Stylicia" is in this point in my life...."The Perfect Imperfection".

So I encourage you to be true to yourself, find out who your are and never lie to yourself that is the worst thing you can do!