You Deserve Love!

Often times people never embrace love because they believe they never deserve it. ~Stylicia~

 

 

 

It has been a little while since I have written on my blog however, life can sometimes be consuming but in my consumed state growth was happening. I learned some important life lessons that have challenged me and made me a better woman. In the last five months I have noticed a difference  in myself and recognize the woman I am becoming daily. I realize in my growth process I was confronted with the issue of learning to no longer be scared of love. For so long I have been accustomed to dodging love, making excuses and believing I did not deserve to be loved. I spent many years believing I was not worthy of someone loving me because of my imperfections. Every romantic relationship I had ended up with me being alone; this was never the picture I painted or fantasized about. However, this year I got tired of doing love my way and told God I would give my love life and dating life over to him. I made a decision to focus more on my dreams and aspirations to live my life more abundantly. I am a firm believer you can have it all the career, the man and the prosperity but it will mean patience is defintely required for the journey. Once I made a decision to stop looking for love and let love find me I became a happier soul. In my journey of living life abundantly I realized today I was no longer scared to love, the fear of love was no longer a fear. I was no longer scared to be transparent or vulnerable and love the man that will be compatible for me.

 

I had to learn the truth about the power of loving myself unconditionally. When you understand that love is attracted to you because it is who you are then love will not be hard to attract. As the months slip by in 2013 I am becoming more aware of how beautiful love is and can be. As a woman I have learned the secret of attracting love from a man is learning to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and unconditional love. I never felt like love was as close to me as it is now in my life. I understand who is the ultimate source of love---God. God is love. Love is fulfilling and incredible when you understand its power, its virtue and how much you deserve love. I started to affirm myself by being aware of how much I needed to love myself before anyone else could love me. Today, I challenge you to look at love differently and challenge your love walk for yourself. Do you love you for all of who you are..whether good or bad? What are the negative things you are saying to yourself about love? Do you fear love? If you answered Yes to any of these questions today is the day you tell yourself "I Deserve Love". It's time to break up with the false fearful image of love and affirm to yourself boldly: "I am love, I deserve love, I will not rush, force, manipulate or be deseparate or needy for love. I will be patient with love and prepare myself for love by loving myself first." The best example of love is godly love when Jesus died on the cross for you. Understand love is patient, kind, and all other things 1 Corinthians chapter 13 discusses. It is time for you to get a better realtionship with love by understanding you deserve to be loved.

 

 

Love Yourself First Then Love Can Love On You.....

 

Personal Challenge: Write Yourself a love letter!

You Deserve Love!

Often times people never embrace love because they believe they never deserve it. ~Stylicia~

 

 

 

It has been a little while since I have written on my blog however, life can sometimes be consuming but in my consumed state growth was happening. I learned some important life lessons that have challenged me and made me a better woman. In the last five months I have noticed a difference  in myself and recognize the woman I am becoming daily. I realize in my growth process I was confronted with the issue of learning to no longer be scared of love. For so long I have been accustomed to dodging love, making excuses and believing I did not deserve to be loved. I spent many years believing I was not worthy of someone loving me because of my imperfections. Every romantic relationship I had ended up with me being alone; this was never the picture I painted or fantasized about. However, this year I got tired of doing love my way and told God I would give my love life and dating life over to him. I made a decision to focus more on my dreams and aspirations to live my life more abundantly. I am a firm believer you can have it all the career, the man and the prosperity but it will mean patience is defintely required for the journey. Once I made a decision to stop looking for love and let love find me I became a happier soul. In my journey of living life abundantly I realized today I was no longer scared to love, the fear of love was no longer a fear. I was no longer scared to be transparent or vulnerable and love the man that will be compatible for me.

 

I had to learn the truth about the power of loving myself unconditionally. When you understand that love is attracted to you because it is who you are then love will not be hard to attract. As the months slip by in 2013 I am becoming more aware of how beautiful love is and can be. As a woman I have learned the secret of attracting love from a man is learning to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and unconditional love. I never felt like love was as close to me as it is now in my life. I understand who is the ultimate source of love---God. God is love. Love is fulfilling and incredible when you understand its power, its virtue and how much you deserve love. I started to affirm myself by being aware of how much I needed to love myself before anyone else could love me. Today, I challenge you to look at love differently and challenge your love walk for yourself. Do you love you for all of who you are..whether good or bad? What are the negative things you are saying to yourself about love? Do you fear love? If you answered Yes to any of these questions today is the day you tell yourself "I Deserve Love". It's time to break up with the false fearful image of love and affirm to yourself boldly: "I am love, I deserve love, I will not rush, force, manipulate or be deseparate or needy for love. I will be patient with love and prepare myself for love by loving myself first." The best example of love is godly love when Jesus died on the cross for you. Understand love is patient, kind, and all other things 1 Corinthians chapter 13 discusses. It is time for you to get a better realtionship with love by understanding you deserve to be loved.

 

 

Love Yourself First Then Love Can Love On You.....

 

Personal Challenge: Write Yourself a love letter!

Authentic Fridays Guest Blogger: Trenace Carter " Everyone that is with you isn't FOR you!"

 Melancholy, Despair, Funk, Sadness Misery,Unhappy Heavyheartedness,Gloominess, Hopelessness,Blah, Poignancy, Bummer, Cheerlessness, Dismal, Distress, Heartbroken,Depression

 

Misery loves company....

I have heard that so many times and for so many years. Has anyone actually thought about what that really means? I will wait........
People that are miserable like to have others around them that are miserable. This person may or may not realize this is who they are. This person may be upset and will interact with people to make them unhappy or upset as well. They make excuses for their bad attitudes.They constantly complain. You may even find that these people often say that they have HATERS but they are often spending time hating on their "haters". Now, that makes a lot of sense.
She is your friend to your face but behind your back she just can't help but talk bad about your or even tell something personal/private about you. Some of the things that she says to you are in order to make herself *SHINE* in someone else's eyes.
What is even more interesting is that we interact with these type of people, women, on a regular basis. You ignore how she behaves because you have become accustomed to her behavior, her rants, her raves, her meanness. Yes she is many times mean!! Very mean.
I used to have a friend. Nice lady, helpful, fun to be around...until she saw that I was happy or I wasn't doing what SHE wanted me to do. If she couldn't get her way she would be mean, nasty, disrespectful and argumentative. She was mad one day for no apparent reason, she called her daughter's dad made him mad. When she ended the call she was smiling, just as happy. She often blamed her bad behavior on her cycle.
Soooo, what do you do. If you value this friendship. You speak with her honestly. Tell her how she behaves and tell her how it makes you feel. If the behavior doesn't begin to end you could have to change your relationship or even end it. I changed our relationship but she ended it because I changed it. Value who you are. Value your happiness. Value your space. Value your peace.
Now, if you can't think of a person that behaves in these negative ways....it is probably you. Don't be afraid to look in the mirror. Don't be afraid to journal it out. Don't be afraid to get some help. It could be depression. Depression can be fixed with help.
Then again it may not be depression. It could be jealously, envy or even hate. Everyone that is with you is not always for you. Friend may be a foe. People that have been in your circle for years, may have to be left behind for you to shine. Sometimes the ones that are closest to you could be your worst enemy. Step away with the realization that you have to surround yourself with people of like mind. A mindset of success!

To read more blog post by Trenace Carter please go to http://creativeinkflow.blogspot.com/



 

Authentic Fridays Guest Blogger: Trenace Carter " Everyone that is with you isn't FOR you!"

 Melancholy, Despair, Funk, Sadness Misery,Unhappy Heavyheartedness,Gloominess, Hopelessness,Blah, Poignancy, Bummer, Cheerlessness, Dismal, Distress, Heartbroken,Depression

 

Misery loves company....

I have heard that so many times and for so many years. Has anyone actually thought about what that really means? I will wait........
People that are miserable like to have others around them that are miserable. This person may or may not realize this is who they are. This person may be upset and will interact with people to make them unhappy or upset as well. They make excuses for their bad attitudes.They constantly complain. You may even find that these people often say that they have HATERS but they are often spending time hating on their "haters". Now, that makes a lot of sense.
She is your friend to your face but behind your back she just can't help but talk bad about your or even tell something personal/private about you. Some of the things that she says to you are in order to make herself *SHINE* in someone else's eyes.
What is even more interesting is that we interact with these type of people, women, on a regular basis. You ignore how she behaves because you have become accustomed to her behavior, her rants, her raves, her meanness. Yes she is many times mean!! Very mean.
I used to have a friend. Nice lady, helpful, fun to be around...until she saw that I was happy or I wasn't doing what SHE wanted me to do. If she couldn't get her way she would be mean, nasty, disrespectful and argumentative. She was mad one day for no apparent reason, she called her daughter's dad made him mad. When she ended the call she was smiling, just as happy. She often blamed her bad behavior on her cycle.
Soooo, what do you do. If you value this friendship. You speak with her honestly. Tell her how she behaves and tell her how it makes you feel. If the behavior doesn't begin to end you could have to change your relationship or even end it. I changed our relationship but she ended it because I changed it. Value who you are. Value your happiness. Value your space. Value your peace.
Now, if you can't think of a person that behaves in these negative ways....it is probably you. Don't be afraid to look in the mirror. Don't be afraid to journal it out. Don't be afraid to get some help. It could be depression. Depression can be fixed with help.
Then again it may not be depression. It could be jealously, envy or even hate. Everyone that is with you is not always for you. Friend may be a foe. People that have been in your circle for years, may have to be left behind for you to shine. Sometimes the ones that are closest to you could be your worst enemy. Step away with the realization that you have to surround yourself with people of like mind. A mindset of success!

To read more blog post by Trenace Carter please go to http://creativeinkflow.blogspot.com/